Mr.Bay Leaf-Adding flavours to so many lives

The widening generation gap

2011-06-10T22:03:00.000-07:00

The other day,my friend was just sharing this with me.

His mother was watching a hindi movie,'Babool'.He deliberately changed the channel.His mother was annoyed.She insisted to watch that movie.But He didn't allow.My logic was if you don't believe in something why you pretend that you like that.This movie was on a widow remarriage initiated and supported by the Father-in-law himself.Come what may,if such a scenario arises,probably his parents won't take such a brave step.Defending herself his mother said that it is just celluloid entertainment and it is not possible in a society.It led to a question that,"Don't you think also these movies are replica of the changing mindset of some stubborn people who are ready to accept the positive changes in the society unlike our parents?"

The rebel in him didn't stop here.The other day they were engrossed in the movie of "Lage Raho Munnabhai".But they are the same parents who are not comfortable allowing their own kid's marriage as the bride is a mangalik.What a paradox it is?

When it comes taking onus of a change,we refrain from doing this.We come out with all such excuses like "kala sarpa dosha",'Vaidhabya Dosha' etc.Then emotions will ooze out..How can I allow my son to die?There if you try to convince them that,these are old school thoughts.Please do change it and I am interested to marry her.Over..you will become bad son immediately cause you liked someone whom they rejected because some quack astrologer calculated a mishap due to the planetary alignments of that girl.Then the follow up statements.."Our son don't have any respect for us.He is ignoring us for a girl.Look,how the girl is trying to snatch him from us??And probably leading to...we will commit suicide in case you die or ok fine,you go ahead with your marriage but never ever look back to us.We disown you.They say it with lots of conviction in most of the cases cause they know that,their son loves them the most and probably won't leave them so let us exploit the emotional benefit.Just because you want to lead a peaceful life with your beloved with their blessings,you try to convince them.You beg them for agreeing and request them for allowing you to get married to the same mangalik girl,but the emotional blackmailing will become a burden and you have to compromise.Because,you have to prove that you are a good son.Now,does that mean,the parents are at fault,probably,NO.They also are behaving like parents,but then jut due to this stupid age old concepts of "Mangalik Hazards",you have to sacrifice your love and be a part of the so called system.

Since childhood,our son always do listen to us and we are the best to decide who is the best suited for him as a life partner.In case you disagree with them,"Our son has changed,his priorities changed in life?We are nowhere?We thought he will never go against our decisions,but today he had proven us wrong?hooh..Why do parents forget that,"Marriage is about united mind,body and soul and more than their like or dislike,their kid's liking is the most important factor,or else the two lives will be spoiled within days..may lead to post marital trauma..there they will be only watching them suffer...they can't do anything otherwise..

Obsession with fair skin is still deep rooted.If someone is of darker complexion,the couple won't look nice is the excuse given by parents.They are forgetting one thing that everyone's kid is the best looking one for them.At times,marriage proposals didn't work out cause either the bride or the groom is of darker complexion and thus the other person denied.

Why do a person get married?

Because he need a cook to serve good food on time
or
Because he need a maid servant to take care of household work and cleanliness etc..
or
Because he need a legal license to have sex and produce kids so that the generation continues and the physical pleasure is taken care off..
or
Because he need financial support and as because double income is the need of the time
or
Because he need a showpiece

I wonder why????

As per my knowledge,it is about understanding each other,giving emotional support to each other,standing beside each other through thick and thin and all other things will revolve around it...

People say,Marriage is also about marriage of two families?But my question is what is more important..the marriage and compatibility of two souls who are going to lead the rest of the lives or the compatibility among the in laws and other relatives of both the side?

I believe effective parenting should also address this issue..or else the differences due to the generation gap will widen further...

Divine intervention required...
Social revolution required...
Mindsets which are not healthy has to be smashed...

Gandhigiri

2010-10-04T06:29:00.000-07:00

'We can't do anything about it.We are sorrry however.'This is what the reply of the so called customer centric managers of this organisation.

Kalyanbhai will not remain silent.He had declared the war.But this war is without a weapon however with a determination to stand by the truth.

He told the manager politely that,'I will spend 2 hours daily in front of your store and will interact with each and every walk-ins during that time period and will share my experience with you and your store.'The store manager laughted at it.This sounded like an idiotic idea and thus he gave "Three Finger salute".

Next day,punctual kalyanbhai took leave for an hour and reached at the mall and was just standing in front of the store.The moment he found a customer walking in,he approached him and borrowed a minute.

Then introduced himself and said that,'I bought a cellphone from this store a day before and went back to home.Suddenly,I discovered that,there is some problem with the sound system of it and it wasn't audible most of the time.I revisited the store.Two sales people at the counter opened the mobile phone and then were unable to identify the problem.They assembled parts again and said that,'we can't do anything,it can't be repaired here,so you may leave now'.Kalyanbhai told him that,' I bought it from your store yesterday evening,I do have the bill and you helped me out explaining all the features.Now you are refusing to resolve my problem.In case,you are not technically sound enough to deal with this problem,Why did you dismantle it?Now,either you replace the phone or return the money.These guys were still adamant and said that,it is your mistake and may be you didn't handle it properly and therefore it led to such a problem.This was annoying and disturbing.Kalyanbhai wanted to speak to the store manager.He was a chameleon,cause the guy who was a gentleman till the purchase to Kalyanbhai was behaving like a hooligan now.He refused of any help.

So this can't be resolved at this level it seems."May I talk to your boss or any senior authority?"Kalyanbhai asked this like a nagging wife.And he spoke to the Regional Head and then the Eastern zone,Customer Care Head.But the line of replies remained same.In stead of being empathetic,they blamed him.

The defiant soldier,kalyanbhai remained calm for a while and told the Eastern Zone head that,'I will continue my protest from this moment peacefully.Till you replace this phone,daily I will sacrifice 1 hour of my time and share the same experience with all your prospective customers in front of your store.The managers found it funny and advised him not to behave like a kid and banged the phone down.

Therefore,I would request and warn you not to buy anything from this store and get into trouble like this.

This exercise continued for 3 days and he could mange to speak to some 30 customers.On the second day,a customer was just about to pack a costly mobile phone worth 3ok but after listening to his story,he dropped the idea of buying the same.

This incident opened the eyes of the store manger.He realised the power of customer and understood,why Gandhi had said that,'Customer is king,it is from his money,you earn your bread n butter".

Being panic,called up all his seniors and told them about the kalyanbhai episode.Some of the seniors still advised him to wait and observe for another day,if he still continues the protest,we will do something about him.

On the third day end,Kalyanbhai starts getting 4-5 calls from the top notch CXOs of the company who by this time had realised the blunder.They apologised sincerely.One of the senior mangers was asked to go down from Kolkata to Bhubaneswar.

A brand new model of the same cellphone with a king size bouquet accompanied a unknown visitor to Kalyanbhai's office.The person was asked to wait for a while at the reception.And then..there comes Kalyanbhai...!!!!!He welcomed the company representative and offered him tea/coffee.Looking at his demeanour,the person from the mobile company says,'Kalyanbhai!Can you ggive me a jadu ki jhappi...hugged him..hold him tight for a minute..apologised and said that,today you made me realise that,'GANDHIGIRI is practical and you taught all of our colleagues the importance of customer service and taught so many lessons of CRM(Customer Relationship Management),in this last 72 hours.'

Kalyanbhai with his unique smile was happy that his patience paid him and he left his enduring legacy behind.

Bapu..may be Kalyanbhai is your incarnation or what???That is what a question to ponder?However,may God produce so many such people who will fight for the right without destroying public property or without hurting anyone's sentiments.He won his short term enemies by his endurance,patience and unique approach.Long live,Gandhi Bhai..oopss..KALYANBHAI...

The give and take continues forever....

2010-09-22T06:34:00.000-07:00

The cellphone starts ringing...Kalyanbhai picks up the phone and then says,'Ravindaa!Kemon achis...wow!After 6 years almost..we are talking to each other.

Ravindaa says,'Kalyanbhai!You might have forgotten but I can't forget,"How I went to your place at midnight and asked you for Rs.2000/- and you went to the nearby ATM immediately and withdrawn the amount and handed it to me."I want to pay you back that money,so tell me when are we meeting?

Kalyanbhai is stunned and says that,'Honestly I had forgotten when I helped you,stil Ravinda was insisting still for the meeting.Meanwhile,Kalyanbhai got a call from a client and thus hung up.

Then he was discussing the same with all other colleagues.This led to some interesting discussions."He should have paid it before,today after so many years,this guy realises this..and someone burst into laughter.Another person saying,"Let us appreciate the honesty & sincerity of Ravindaa who remembered that he has to pay back as it was a borrowing from someone."

The postmortem continued further?????I was just wandering,'If you pay back,people discuss.If you don't pay,still people would have discussed?'.The argument continues,Coffee or Toffee...

The people in the society are usually judgementAL about anything and everything that happens around them.Eachone has an opinion to share and love to talk about others but get annoyed when others talk about them.

I believe people like Ravindaa enhance the faith & belief of so many Kalyanbhais who helped people without any expectations whereas to their utter surprise,their borrowers paid back with such a sincerity.Therefore,the give and take continues forever....

Sometimes we borrow to bear the brunt of others..sometimes we borrow with a hope,if I help someone,God will help me during the difficult times....

though with expectation or without expectations,the almighty had made some arrangements to fulfill the requirement of the needy....

That's the beauty of this whole rounded circle around us....

My First Music class

2010-09-01T21:14:00.000-07:00

Since last 6 years,I was thinking of joining a music class and hone my singing skills but never got time to take care of my interest in music.However,finally the D-Day arrived yesterday.While Mr.Bay Leaf was trying to overcome the past and present,God sent someone to indulge in to the depth of music and come out with a new identity.

My music teacher met me accidentally through Linked in.In my desperate search for a job,I mayn't get much help from my network there,however I accidentally bumped into a freelancer Music teacher.Love for music,forced me write few lines about my love for music and interest to learn the techniques and the personal objective to be a better singer.I also attached a copy of my composition and sent the mail.For a week,I was expecting a reply and didn't get any.Thus,I assumed that she is a great singer and I may not qualify to be her student.Then one day to my utter surprise,received a communication.She gave me a 7/10 for that composition and had asked to join her music class immediately.Then I planned it thrice,but due to my soft skills classes,I failed to attend the classes on all occassions.Taking 3-4 classes daily,hauling,shouting at students for 6-7 hours,I had a sore throat.I felt that the dream of starting music classes will remain a dream forever.But may be God was testing my patience.Yesterday,it was Janmasthami and thus most colleges had a holiday.I was not having more of classes.Thus,I had some free time during the day.Therefore,I sent my music teacher an SMS asking about "How she is placed today and can we start the class today?".The SMS was sent early morning but there were no reply up to 10am.I presumed,may be she is busy with her kid or may be out of the city with her entrepreneur husband.But then,patience pays off...around 10.30am,got a reply but it was raining heavily.She wanted me to reach by 11am and continue up to 1pm.This time,I din't want to miss theopportunity.Determined to cut across the rain and taking help from her over the phone about the actual location,finally reached at his residence.She welcomed me and asked to park myself in her store room.Then she asked me,"Where is your diary?".Then I realised that I forgot to carry a note book in a hurry.But my teacher was not worried.She told me that,need not worry..I will fetch you one...thereafter started searching in a cupboard.Picked up an old diary.Now look ate coincidence..it was a diary with Lord Krishna's smiling face.Then she gave it to me.I discovered that,her name was written in the first few introductory pages..then it was written "My husband says,'You can't please everybody in this world'.ohhhh..it was a diary gifted by her husband..then she disclosed it was a diary gifted by him.I told her not to give it to me..I will manage today and may be next class onwards,will carry a diary.But she insisted that consider it as your teacher's precious gift.Teacher went on to explain that,May be God wanted to convey the message through me and my husband through this diary.Also explained me that it is not a mere coincidence to get a diary with Lord krishna's images and a saying,it is the almighty's blessings.I too realised.Expect the almighty change my life's course and my musical start afresh will be mellifluous.

We started with the basics of Alankar.First time ever realised that if you are good at music,you will be equally good in mathematics and logical reasoning.Music teaches us life skills.Synchronisation in life is very important.Understanding your friends,relative's human behaviour and going in sync with them is important to lead a peaceful life.Life is also a trivia of ups and downs like the several notes in the ALANKAAR.Music teaches also about co-ordination and its importance in life cycle.What is the importance of BALANCE in life and how to express yourself through voice and how to judge the SOOR,TAAL & LAY in life.Truly,music enhances your persona nad it is holistic devlopment.

Do you know,my teacher also told me that,'It is important to be in love cause it inspires you to come out with your best performance in music cause creativity is always dependent with your emotions,passion and enthusiam.She knew it well that,When I composed my song,I was in true love.However,she also told me that,music teaches you to be in present and ignore the past and learn just lessons from your mistakes,so that it will lead you towards a successful future.

It was more than music in the first class.She was pioneer of selfless service and had shown the true characters of a teacher in the first interaction.Looking forward to many such memorable sessions with my teacher and share the learnings with you.

Okra,Curd,Jalebi,Makhan Laddoo,Mutton Rogan Josh

2010-08-14T11:21:00.000-07:00

Hey,Aunt..Why didn't you give me okra/gumbo?

But you never liked that vegetable since childhood and thus I didn't serve you that curry.Correct me if I am wrong.My younger brother interferes in between and replies,"You are not incorrect however he is more appropriate and accurate and correct".Change is the only constant and brother had changed his taste buds of his tongue....and laughed loudly.Aunt was sharp enough to react and say,"Who is this change agent dear,who can change a stubborn Taurian".Before brother could say something,I interfered politely and started talking about its medicinal properties and benefits.Guddu blabbered,"Let us see how long this medicinal property last".I think he was actually foretelling that day about the future...look at today..I no more like the taste of okra cause it is devoid of the extra spoon of Love,Care and Affection that she added to it.Kabir was correct when he says that,'people get demented in love and it also changes the taste of food,dress and everything'.My love for her actually made me love her likes and dislikes too.

Since last few months,I hated or avoided curd moreover cause she never liked its taste.It was she who came first and there after follows my choice.

Her liking towards Mutton Rogan Josh had forced me to improve my cullinary skills with the help of Sanjeev Kapoor or Tarla Dalal's cooking related books.Even had dream of cooking this dish for her during honeymoon.Till now,I was only competent enough to cook "Hot Water".Even the person who burns Maggi regularly,prepared himself for the big surprise for his would be honey.However the dream still remains a distant dream and its probability of occurence is a big zero now.

Makhan Laddoo is another one that I fell in love with recently.This was the medicine to woo her whenever we had a skirmish.The venue was that cake shop of a prominent hotel of Bhubaneswar near Mastercanteen.I still remember,How she use to say that,"You know about How to mend a relationship in trouble waters" and thus I assumed you are intelligent.The shopkeeper use to give 10 percent discount on bills to add upon.

The Ice Cream parties or the hot jalebis that she liked was a regular affair for me.Wherever I saw hot,fresh jalebis,use to simply give her a tinkle and ask,'What quantity should I bring?'.She was like,'No.not required but I always use to discover a big "YES" in her "NO".Then use to blackmail her,"If you won't have it,I will dump it into the dustbin".She loved all these attention though never accepted it.

Cashew nuts also had its own share of attention given by me cause she was crazy about it.

Whereas since last few months,Jalebi looks like a complicated puzzle to be solved.Cashew nut has become a tough nut to crack and Ice Cream slabs started collapsing like a pack of cards.
The food value all such products has suddely gone down for me.

This time,when aunty served me Okra,I didn't even touch it and that was symbolic to make her understand that turbulent times in relationship can change your taste buds too.She knew that I am in a pensive mood.Walked up to me and told that,"Never mind, these taste buds will not stay long too".I replied,'I had stopped relishing food of any other taste cause the hunger for true love,affection and care can't be fulfilled anymore'.

I kept my promise...

2010-07-27T12:04:00.000-07:00

Hi!

Feel like seeing you.How do you look like?How are you?Are you all right?People say that You are absolutely fine,but my heart says,you are not in good mood.You are so unhappy.

Today when I was seeing the promotions of the great movie, “3 Idiots” which will be shown in Sony TV tonight, it reminded me of you. It was the last Sunday before the launch of store; we had been together for the movie. Even you sacrificed your mass prayer that Sunday for watching the movie with me together. That remained the only movie we watched private.

A student of mine actually helped us to get the tickets from a blacker at a higher price than the usual however for the precious lady of my life; I even would have agreed to pay thousand times the actual charges.

While walking into the theater guarding you, conscious effort from your side was to maintain safe distance from me. May be because, you were going out for a movie with me for the first time and thus you were nervous.Honestly, during the movie, I was concentrating more on your expressions while watching the movie and lesser towards the screen. In fact, I was putting some efforts to understand your likes and dislikes. Over a period of time, both of us were lost in the movie and enjoying every bit of it.Gradually, we were more comfortable with each other .Engrossed and at times, accidentally we had an eye lock. It is proven in the past that, “ when two human beings can look into the depth of their eyes fearlessly, they will go on to be a “Made for each other” couple in case they want to.

I still remember how you went on to hold my hand during the song “Joobi doobi…”.That touch was electrifying and the moment of truth in that theatre for me. Actually, I was also waiting for you to take the first move.Thereafter; I too was holding your hand tight during certain moments. I was praying God to make this lengthier enough to spend some more moments with you. However, I restrained my own self knowingly to behave like a decent guy.

While coming out of the theatre amidst the crowd, I created a barrier around you to protect from the unruly crowd, as they were jealous that I am out with one of the most beautiful, good looking female that day.Then,I went on to drop you at your hostel. When asked, did you enjoy the evening? Your reply was positive. We hung up very late even that day. Towards the fag end of the telephonic conversation, you were lost and I was surprised by the sudden change of your mood. On probing, you told that, Aamir Khan reminds you of your previous boy friend. I was shattered for a while but then, I felt that, I should give you some time to overcome your past. Then I had put the phone down in minutes. But you called back again and said sorry for hurting me. My reply however was very positive and I assured that I am not hurt whereas also asked you to take your own time to come out of it and then made you aware that, may be you are not sure about your feelings for me. In reply, “Why didn’t you come to my life earlier? I wish you were there.” Please don’t misunderstand me. but tell me,"Why do you love me so much?"

You remained silent for few seconds and then burst into crying aloud like a baby. Then you were saying,"People like me in the initial stage and then after some time they hate me and leave me". If you remember, I assured you that, ‘I won’t leave you alone, will be there beside you through thick and thin, even after you part away from me’.

Now, look at this. You left me alone, aloof struggling with my own self, but I still love you the same. I kept my promise.

Today while watching the movie, I will miss you surely. I don’t know whether you remember even that we had been watching this movie together.

Even today,I dream that,"you will call up and ask me,How are you?How is your mother?The way things had happened,I am sorry for that.Take care of yourself."But seems,it won't happen ever.I can just wait,wait and wait..till I survive..even if I die...I doubt whether you will lend few drops of tears and few seconds for me or not..."

Regards,
Mr.Bay Leaf

Head-you won,Heart-you lost

2010-07-25T13:14:00.000-07:00

Hi!

Congratulations!

Must be happy that you won the battle as I was asked to leave from the organisation.

I know just to win that challenge where you said that,'You will go to any extent,so that I will hate you".But let me tell you,I know it very well how your friends had used you as a pawn to settle their personal scores with me.You are a poor victim.

The only thing that comes to my mind is that,'Are you happy with whatever had happened?If yes,it's ok."

I loved you unconditionally and was always honest in my love.Love is not about counting mistakes.The almighty is witness to my love,care for you.My honest efforts to mend the relationship had taken a toll on my career.It taught me hard lessons of life,but I don't blame anyone for this.

My love will never go down for you.I will always cherish those moments that we spent together.Again and again,it reminds me of the first hug,the first kiss,the first late night talk up to 2am,caring for each other,the morning calls,the movie watching together.I always stood by you through thick & thin.Whenever you were sick,you were in controversies,conspiracies,on the verge of loosing job due to discrepancies,always defended you,shielded you in my own way cause I considered it about my duty.I did for my own satisfaction.The call to a customer to send a mail to me,changing the words and framing it so that you get recognized for your efforts,the letter to colleagues for a cross-functional appreciation,highlighting your ownership were my spontaneous actions to do justice to your efforts.

There were so many misunderstandings,misquotes happened,lost my self-esteem in love but still thought of you and not me.

It is not about how many minutes,seconds,hours,days we spent together rather it is about how much we respect each other and value each other.When you walked out of the relationship,you said once that,"I may not get someone who will love you more than you" but "I am not comfortable with your possessiveness".I tried hardest to change my possessiveness so that I can get your trust and faith on me.

Sometime when you are alone,away from this crowded world with your God talking to each other, ask him, "whether I loved you honestly or not?

Whether I was more committed or not?" "Wishing you all success in life.I promise,everyday today onwards,I will pray to God for your happiness,I will love you in my prayers though I can't be there around you,beside you looking at your OWL like eyes(hey..joking...,P's n J's ...the gupchup khana...woh chance marna aur tumhara gussa karna....I won't forget ever....),those immortal statements like"You won't forget me later naa...","Why didn't you come to my life earlier?"still buzzing in my ears.

Mr.Bay Leaf has to just add flavors without any expectations..I did that..I will do that in future...

I had decided not to marry ever other than you,cause I can't love anyone further in my love..not because you were the most beautiful,gorgeous,sensuous or I am frustrated etc...just because these eyes can't tolerate that,the heart won't accept that and the mind doesn't have space to keep anyone inside it.

The biggest regret as of now is I lost my B'day gift that you bought for me,may be you must have thrown it in to the dustbin or burnt it..you told me that if my behavior and possessiveness changes,then I will get it.In this shortest span of time,I was not able to change that much so that you would have given the gift.

I promise to work on your feedback that"Choti si baat ko bada karna tumhara adaat hein".

I don't know,whether we will meet ever or not..but let me tell you..when we meet next,you will find me unmarried,5.7feet,61 Kg,don't drink,don't smoke,don't chew tobacco..only.

There were so many occasions where we hurt each other.I never counted many and had forgotten them.Request you also to trash it.
You fainted and said that,"we were not in to a relationship?" May be your definition of relationship is different to mine and thus I assumed that we were into a relationship.But whenever I ask my inner self, "It says me that she also was involved,she also had given you space,she also had created hope and last but not the least she also loved you".If I am incorrect,on what basis it is decided?What exactly Relationship means?Is it about best of the best cars,bikes,hotels,shoppings,physical encounters only...Isn't it about little care for someone,little affection for someone,taking care of her well being,trying to keep her happy,it is about little skirmish and then getting dissolved in love by a smile quickly,it is about taking care of the blink of the eyes,it is about taking care of the smiles,it is about

of course,my faith on lesser mortals has come down.

Everyone around me are saying that,"I screwed up my career in Love,lost my self-esteem in Love",but unfortunately,you never understood that and never valued my feelings in Love.When all on a sudden,you walked out of my life,'How much of mental torture I went through??Did you ever think about it?Love is about accommodating each other's likes & dislikes and moving ahead together beside each other.It is not about behaving like a fault finding machine.If I would have behaved/did in the same way, "you would have said,All boys are like this".I loved your soul not the body.I loved your care for the needy and asking me to help people.I loved your thought of helping someone who is trouble.I loved your passion for work,taking ownership,dedication for the given task.However,just because you are given freedom by someone,just because someone loves you,don't take him for granted and shout at him,haul at him,treat him like animals.

Ask yourself,Do i deserve to be treated like this?One should always ask,How much you did for him/her?It is not about asking how much he/she did for me?When I asked,I got my answer.I am not having any regrets of loving you,Not having any regret of trying hard to mend our relationship...the only regret is still I failed to make you understand about my feelings and I failed to regain your faith & trust.

I will tell my parents yet again that,"The person whom I loved the most had told me that,"I am not worthy of any women's love"."I am the worst person that she had ever come across in her life".So I don't want spoil any girl's life further who will say the same later on.

By the way,"The worst experiences in life teaches you the best lessons".
"The most difficult thing is to Love someone who use to Love you".

And I will do the most difficult thing as usual...

Planning to adopt a girl,will name her as yours and will guide her to grow in life and will make her successful in life.

That's a promise to my own self.

I love you.Trust me,I honestly loved you.

I promise you,I will miss you in those pictures and miss you in my thoughts.

Regards,Mr.Bay Leaf

Love@Quarter,HR process,Corporate-A TRIED AND TESTED analogy

2010-04-20T21:13:00.000-07:00

When HR recruits someone,he is so excited about the fact that they had selected the best candidate who fit in to a profile.After few days,they observe the candidate's demeanour at work place.Once satisfied during the probationary period,give them a confirmation in job.Then the employee works in the system for a while.Over a period of time,he/she displays some of his/her attitude and approach towards work.The same HR starts finding it incorrect.Therefore after a while,they do have regrets that their perception about this person,his capability & competencies is actually wrong.They reprimand the candidate for the same and give him a deadline to improve his skill sets within a stipulated time,failing which he has to be given a pink slip.The same HR who recruited them say that,"It is their biggest mistake recruiting this fool".Then,they even wish and wait for "When this person will resign or find out a new job and leave the system"?

Now let's look at a relationship.You meet a person,spend some time,start liking his/her looks,features,demeanour and then decide to get into a relationship.You feel,you found the Ideal life partner that you were looking for.Then we say,"Why did you come to my life so late,I wish you were in my life much before.I hope you will not forget me and you will be beside me through thick and thin.You hung up over the phone through out the night.The night becomes shorter and sweeter.Anyone trying to call you up during that time has to wait long hours in a queque to talk to you over the phone,cause you prefer talking to your would be partner.However,days move on.Suddenly,you find the person being possessive,you comprehend that "he/she is not giving you freedom","He is barging in to your personal lives".You get irritated when he/she ask you,enquire you about your daily life,trust/faith that you had suddenly disappears.You feel like ignoring the person and thus to maintain distance,you start ignoring his/her phone calls.You make the same person wait for longer hours while you hung up with your new friends.You even go to an extent of saying that,"Don't interfere in my personal life,give me freedom,change your habits or else I will hate you like anything.You have become a pain for me,your relationship has become a burden on me.I want peace.The same person says,"Why did you come to my life and made my life miserable?"Then comes,"I have certain commitments towards my family,thus I can't go ahead with the relationship,I am out of it.It is better that you come out of it.The care becomes curse and disbelief.Love is being treated as lust.I regret that I had some feelings for you,I wonder how I use to talk longer hours with such a person.Then he/she switches off his/her mobile phone.If you try to make him/her remember about the past memories,they hate it from the core of the heart.If the person gets upset,demented and starts ignoring himself,gets frustrated and becomes a laughing stock before the society.Previously when this person use to get angry due to a skirmish and skip his/her lunch,you use to force him/her by promises and emotional statements like,"If you won't have food,I will hurt my ownself,I too will skip lunch,If you love me,you won't do anything like this".Whereas,now the situation is different,thus dialogues do change.The same person starts saying that,"Oh!you are black mailing me.You are trying to defame me.You are doing all these drama to get sympathy from people.I hate you the most.Get out of my life,live me alone.Please walk out.When will you leave me alone in peace?"

It is also quite similar to the product life cycle(PLC)'s different stages like Introductory,growth,maturity & decline.

In a similar fashion as the HR recruits,trains,rewards,tries to retain and if failed with all,retrench them or give them a pink slip or golden handshake.The relationship that started with lots of fun,fare,expectations,excitement,trust ends with hurt souls,fragmented hearts,emotional trauma & painful experiences.

Questions to be asked,'who is responsible for this'?
"Is it acceptable that someone enters into your life,gets intimate and all on a sudden with excuses like family,religion,caste,community, moves out of the commitment and leave you in despair?
"It was just courtship and relationship didn't work and thus there is no problem in walking out cause it is better to leave now rather than leaving the person later cause that is more painful."

But unfortunately,if the person even tries to save the relationship somehow and goes for any extent,still it is treated negatively as he./she is actually not accepting that he/she is not worth it.

Why did people are commiting when they are unsure about a relationship?
Why it has become practice that people believe in Love@quarter?

Quite similar to how a corporate works.

They look at the individual employee's performance at the end of a quarter and then when they see the ROI(Return on investment) is negative or negligible,they don't mind sacking him or giving him a deadline to find a new job after a sumptuous lunch/dinner.

Love & relationships are just like these quarterly business results now.One quarter,we are ready to mingle with someone,spend some golden moments,be intimate,then suddenly think about our family problems,obligations to parents,duty towards society,religion,cast,community etc and we walk out of the relationship.The person who was the intelligent,good looking,smart suddenly becomes aged,rugged,psychic,idiot and thus you don't have any space for him/her.

The most loved person becomes one of the most hated.

That's the irony.

Therefore,please don't say "I Love you" just like this.Say it when you actually mean it.Never fool around with people's emotions and leave them in despair after creating false hopes like a facade.Never treat human beings as animals.Have respect for people's feelings,emotions & self-esteem.

Love has become just a 3 letter word in the current scenario.It is ROI/SEX/FUN.
People becoming so materialistic that the concept of platonic love no more exists.

Adulteration has become an integral part of daily life.Everything is adultered,may it be in love,may it be in food items,feelings & emotions.Value of truth,faith,care is degrading day to day.

whereas you have quite a few lucky mortals,who had loved ,commited and married their partners and are living life together.Let us hope,this share increases over a period of time.

Regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf

Slog Overs at IIM-Lucknow-Review by Nirad Inamdar-I was the Quiz Master

2009-10-10T21:38:00.000-07:00

A moment of pride for 2 entities, both with great ambitions "" March Ahead and IIM Lucknow as both took the first step towards realising their plans of establishing an international presence. It was the first live quiz conducted by March Ahead (www.marchahead.co.in) and the first professional quiz conducted at IIM Lucknow (www.varchasva.in) other than the one at its annual business conclave (Manfest).

Let"™s get the unpleasant part out of the way. Firstly, the finals didn"™t have sufficient scope for "˜passing"™, so 5 teams would simply sit staring while 1 team tried to crack the question asked. Secondly, the announcement of the finalists took very long as there was ambiguity about some questions in the prelims. It is better for the host to correct papers herself/ himself. Thirdly, the quizmaster (Manasa Nayak) probably let himself indulge in drama. Suspense is fine, but not to the extent of Giri "˜Pickbrain"™. Maybe in 2 more attempts, he"™ll master this.

On the other hand, however, the positives are plentiful. The prelims started almost on time, barring a minor technical glitch, which incidentally was enlivened by Manasa"™s cool quip "" "œTechnology is like a girlfriend. When you need it the most, it will betray you". The venue Samanjasya (on the IIM Lucknow campus) was close to packed, with about 50 teams showing their enthusiasm on a sunny Saturday. Besides the hosts, we had teams from IIM Indore, XLRI, NITIE, LBSIM and a great contingent from BBDNIT, Lucknow.

"œFantastic" was the common comment for the prelims. All 25 questions were well thought of and most were guessable (particularly, the one on a sweet fruit Phoenix and "˜No Pain No Gain"™). Possibly, teams could"™ve been given more time to finish their answers (at least 2 min) else it beats the purpose of quizzing, which is to encourage guessing. Out of a max of 30, the highest scorer was Dilip"™s team from LBSIM, Delhi and the cut-off was 12. The impartiality of the prelims is highlighted by the fact that as many as 3 teams (all from IIM Lucknow) vied for the last spot. Vipin and Nirad clinched the tie-breaker in the first shot itself to narrowly scrape through to the finals, at the expense of their juniors (Sumantra and Abhishek) and Abhishek Kumar.

The finals were decidedly tougher. The other 4 finalists were 2 teams each from IIM Lucknow and BBDNIT. Many questions went back to the audience and then to the quizmaster. With passing, the teams on stage might have been more interested. Of course, most of these were duly appreciated when the answers came on the screen!

While LBSIM led jointly with Ali and Uday from IIML after Round 1, the other 2 teams from the host campus weren"™t far behind. In Round 2 (which had a 30-20-10 scoring pattern), Vipin and Nirad marched ahead with a 1-clue answer of the ceremonial name of a city. Ali came up with probably, THE cracker of the quiz, when he answered about a Texas tycoon on the 2nd clue. Having a serial-based question is wonderful, but the disparity in scoring shouldn"™t be so high. Perhaps, 20-15-10 would suit better, because it rewards mettle, without giving an unfair advantage.

Round 3 went largely unanswered, marked by Dilip"™s outstanding connection of a list of sporting trophies. At the end of it, the scores stood as:

A "" IIM Lucknow (35)

B "" LBSIM (30)

C "" IIM Lucknow (35)

D "" IIM Lucknow (30)

E "" BBDNIT (20)

F "" BBDNIT (20)

Unfortunately, the final round had no passing and moreover, had negatives for wrong tries, so everyone chose to play it safe. The AV content was superb, as was the rest of the quiz (some handpicked favourites will follow in another post). Team 5 from BBDNIT spotted a light-hearted Bangla "˜khele khele"™ song and related it to a football club. What"™s more, it doubled the stakes and scored 20 instead of 10. The other scores remained put.

The top two teams (Vipin & Nirad) and (Ali & Uday) agreed to split the prizes (vouchers worth Rs. 15,000) instead of opting for a tie-break. A case of "˜healthy competition"™, maybe? Or simply an aversion to risk-taking? In either case, it just underlined the fact that 4 teams were almost on level terms. This is as good as it gets.

We thank the organisers March Ahead for the painstaking efforts put in for the quiz and not least for travelling all the way from Bhubaneshwar. What was most delightful was the symbiotic way in which two brands helped each other in the climb to the top of ladder! Years later, both will fondly remember this as the base camp of a memorable ascent.

Dear All,

Just a decent start..keep on wishing and blessing me further..so that some day will fulfill the dream of having a live quiz in any of these national TV channels in India.

Regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf

XQUIZZITE Presents The QUBICLE-22nd-24th September,2009

2009-09-19T11:45:00.000-07:00

Xquizzite – The quizzing association of XIMB proudly presents The Qubicle – The online quiz challenge. The first part of The Qubicle goes live on 22nd September 2009.

This quiz challenge aims at bringing together, on the World Wide Web, the best quizzing talents of the country and beyond. In short this quiz series is open to all. The Qubicle will be a no holds barred quiz which will test the Q-Quotient of the best quizzing brains, irrespective of campus, organisation or profession.

The Qubicle is a series of three online quizzes to be held from 22ndtill 24th September 2009. The quizzes will start at 10 PM every night and continue till 11 PM. The winner of each quiz will receive Rs 2000 cash and the runners up Rs 1000, apart from the certificates of course.The detailed itinerary is as follows

22 Sept - Biz Quiz
23 Sept - Sports and Entertainment Quiz
24 Sept - India Quiz

Registration is open for everyone.Participants can play the quiz individually or in teams of two.
Questions will be uploaded at 10 PM sharp.
Answers to be sent by e-mail to xquizzite@ximb.ac.in by 11 PM.
Answers will be mailed to those who attempt the quiz.
Detailed rules will be put up shortly.

Contacts:

Swarup Kumar Kar, 9777686344

Udaya Satapathy, 9238305258

Email - xquizzite@ximb.ac.in

Blog -http://xquizzite.blogspot.com/

And to get you started here are some aperitifs

1. The secret recipe for which popular food product is kept in a safe in the city of Louisville in the
United States ?
2. It does'nt matter what your second name is ,What matters is what you do with your first. -
Karan Johar . 1972 - Rest is History. Which ad ?

Answers

1. Kentucky Fried Chicken; the recipe consists of eleven herbs and spices.
2. Timond Watches. Luxury watch brand 'Timond' has director Karan Johar as its worldwide
brand ambassador.

Dear All!

Take part in this Quizzical Fiesta and test your Q-Quotient against the best in the nation.

Regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf

TATA CRUCIBLE QUIZ-MUMBAI-TATA TRACK-ELIMS QUESTION

2009-09-13T20:25:00.000-07:00

REVIEW BY: - From a kind soul in Mumbai

Winning is a habit for him.A great quizzer for whom I have great respect.

1. Engaging you, Achieving Together, Passion for Innvovation, Very Human .Identify the company?

2. Ren Zhengfai - WIPO Patent beating Philips for the most patents

3. Saraswati Samman / Vyas Samman - Which foundation?

4. MIT Professor Dr YW Lee spent his life savings to fund which company in 1964?

5. Visual - Bossini Logo

6. Bookstore - Regret Minimization frame work, Identify the bookstore.

7. Logo is off-set at 18 degrees from the horizontal and 22 degrees from the vertical. Company makes yellow-and-black engineering vehicles. Started by joseph cyril bamsford.

8. Re-Imagine, US Navy, Served in the White House. Identify the person.

9. SHOT Show - If OT is Outdoor Trade. What is SH in this show on archery materials, guns etc.

10. Coping with Back from the Brink: Coping with Stress, from Book Cover.

11. Created in 1952 in Memphis, Tennessee, by homebuilder Kemmons Wilson to provide inexpensive family accommodation. Inspired by a Bing Crosby movie.

12. Area 71 - public corporation data center for which company.

13. Magazine launched in India - Where fashion gets personal.

14. Segway - Tiny Electric Car - PUMA with which auto giant?

15. Visual - Character associated with a company. The character is not present in India.

16. Pharma Giant - Pegasys - drug - drug patent given for the first time in India.

17. Only Repeat Space Tourist so far.

18. Which cricketer trade marked his name recently. License India was the company.

19. Initiative called Plantbottle - recyclable bottles using sugarcane and mollasses left over. Which company?

20. Which personality wrote the poem - Iss Baar Nahin after Mumbai riots?

21. India's neighbor aiming to be the First carbon neutral country in the world.

22. UTVi in association with which company brought out the campaign - Take Your Own Path.

23. CISF providing protection to which private company?

24. Video Ad - Chimanlal Charlie - Ad – SBI

25. Video Ad – Itchguard.

ANSWER:-

1. Nokia

2. Huawei

3. Birla Foundation

4. Bose Corporation

5. Bossini

6. Amazon

7. JCB

8. Tom Peters

9. S- Shooting, H - HUnting

10. Nick Leeson

11. Holiday Inn

12. Walmart

13. Harpers Bazaar

14. General Motors

15. Pepsi Man from Pepsi

16. Roche

17. Charles Simonyi

18. Harbhajan Singh

19. Coca Cola

20. Prasoon Joshi

21. Maldives

22. Infosys

23. DELL

24. SBI

25. Itchguard

TCQ-BHUBANESWAR FINALS QUESTION THAT I CAN RECALL

2009-09-07T11:19:00.000-07:00

TATA ROUND:-
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1.First ever editor of MARG publication?(Mulk Raj Anand)(happy to inform you that we had this question earlier in march ahead-08 ,may be a coincidence )
2.Sir Dorabji Tata Graduate School has changed it's name,what is it known as now?(TISS)
3.TATA in colaboration with GYSYUASA produce market which brand?(TATA Green battery)

CONNECT:-
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1.B&W picture of Amar Gopal Bose from wiki,some auditorium picture where BOSE Music system was installed and some formulae of acoustics given.connect:-Amar Gopal Bose & BOSE Sounds(happy to inform you that we had this question earlier in march ahead,may be a coincidence)
2.The cover page of The road ahead,business @ speed of thought,corbis and IBM.Connect:-corbis image solutions belongs to bill gates,he sold it out to IBM or something....he had written all these books,so connect is Bill Gates.
3.David Ogilvy's cigar picture from wiki,american express ad av playing simultaneously("Don't Leave Home Without Them" was the voice over)ad campaign which was given by ogilvy,a print ad of the same showing two lady brand ambassadors were given.connect:-David Ogilvy
4.Mumbai dabbawala coding pictorial representation of six sigma,picture of founders of Motorola given along with a third picture that i forgot.connect;-six sigma
5.ITC connect question with its one of the hotel picture and something was given I suppose..sorry folks..forgot...

some other questions were like:-

1.William Ramsay created something which is now popularly used as an advertising tool..what is it?ans:-neon glow sign board,neon is a nobel gas,william ramsay worked on noble gases/ideal gases and known for it.
2.identify the person in the left in the picture,he had shown the picture of thomas alva edison,the clue given was he would have been the richest person if would have charged us just a small 1% royalty for his creation,had maximum patents in his name etc....ans:-Thomas Alva Edison(not sure either it was first round finals question or was asked in tie-breakers before the finals)(happy to inform you that we had this question earlier in march ahead,may be a coincidence)
3.There was a question on it is going to be introduced in bhubaneswar soon..the three clues were given for it..ans:-Mono Rail
4.there was an easy sitter on XIM,Bhubaneswar saying that founded by jesuit society etc in that 3 clue round that Priyamvad answered joyfully even Giri finished the first clue and bagged some 20 points I suppose...
5.clive rice along with another Indian cricketer is lighting streets.Identify the cricketer of Indian origin?ANS;-KAPIL DEV,MUSCO LIGHTINGS is the company((happy to inform you that we had this question earlier in march ahead,may be a coincidence)
6.sinking ship of MNCs picture given as they were not doing well during recession,excellent question ,this picture was put up before b-schools and engg colleges(answered by preetpal and javed genious of Infy easily)..failing to frame it properly....

that's all..any errors..plz forgive cause to err is humane,to forgive is divine..heeeee

Regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf
Founder
www.marchahead.co.in

TATA CRUCIBLE QUIZ-CORPORATE ROUND-NON TATA TRACK-ELIMS-QUESTIONS

2009-09-06T04:41:00.000-07:00

1.If CD is compact disc,then BD stands for?(ans;-blue ray disc)
2.prestige pressure cooker,kohinoor condom belongs to whom?(ans:-TTK)
3.A Double Tall Tale of Caffeine, Commerce, and Culture book is on which organisation?(ans:-starbucks,we mentioned Barista,for which we regret)
4.Big city,big entreprise,which telecom player of India extracted its name from it?(ans:-MTNL)
5.sebi chairman CS Bhave's picture was shown and asked to identify?
6.'count on us' whose tagline?(ans:-maruti)
7.1726,headquartered at leadhal street,London.which organisation.(ans;-east india company)
8.Sailors use to use it,it became a style symbol in 1970's and popularised in bollywood,what am i talking abt?(ans;-bell bottoms,we had written it and then confused struck it and changed with the wrong answer baggy,for which we regret)
9.Booker,Oscar,Nobel,Bourneville,go with the drift and fill what comes next?(ans;-cadburys)
10.who owns santoor brand of soap/(ans;-wipro)
11.Interio brand belongs to ?(ans:-godrej)
12.logo of logitech was shown.identify it.
13.lotus temple was built by?(ans:-L&T, We did a blunder,first mentioned that,then corrected it think shapoorji palonji being related to TATA and got it wrong.)
14.Bobby Kooka created what???(ans:-Maharaja)
15.logo of tommy hilfiger shown.
16.mohit burman,ness wadia,who is missing...a very popular celebrity?(ans:-preity zinta)
17.expand IPTV/(ANS:-INTERNET PROTOCOL TELEVISION)
18.JET AIRWAYS print campaign was shown and asked to identify.(got it correct0
19.Idea the old man talking in english campaign was shown?
20.microsoft x-box ad with yuvraj and akshay kumar shown.(ans;-we failed to answer this for which we regret.this was internally star marked question.)

4 teams scored 18 and made it to finals however we had a tie-breaker of 5 teams who scored equal points and also marked the star mark question wrong before the finals.)

we were expecting cause we scored 16 also.

However Giri took name of Rourkela team missing by a whisker for the tie breaker.

Met Giri after the finals to clarify,why with 16 points we were not there in tie-breaker,he informed that 17 was cut-off for the tie-breakers before the finals.

Last year winners of TCQ-Bhubaneswar from Vizag steel won again.Infosys represented by Javed and preetpal(the regular winners and finalists in bhubaneswar based quizzes) missed out the bus yet again and were satisfied with the runners-up tag.9tie-breaker entry)

Priyamvad and Roshan(regular quizzers) of Tech-mahindra were there on stage.(tie-breaker entry)

Vodafone,BPCL,VIZAG STEEL-2 were the other teams.BPCL failed to open their accounts in the finals.

The single audience question was answered by me as UPS and got a coffee mug embossed as TATA CRUCIBLE QUIZ 2009.Again ,I have to wait for an year looking at this mug again and again.3 questions were repeated from the campus TCQ-09.

There were some good connects in the finals.Will detail out the same in a while.Giri kept the prelims very easy,it seems he is still under estimating the quizzer's potential in Bhubaneswar.

The first ever and last ever trip to Bali Yatra

2009-08-28T07:39:00.000-07:00

Let us go to Bali Yatra, she said so..I was just wondering going to Bali Yatra with a girl on the fourth day of our meeting,’ this girl is really very fast"...then "How to go? She says, “You come in my bike”. Male ego forced me to say that,"No! You come in my bike.I will drive and won't allow you to drive in this twin city highway, which has an outstanding record of accidents."Then started asking,'Hey!!!!A girl behind you in a bike...if someone sees you...gone etc...".But then, the decision is already taken. You can't back out. Picked her up from her house and then started the journey. Consciously I was driving maintaining some distance. She laughed and asked me to be comfortable and not to behave like a pariah, the untouchables................................................................FOR THE COMPLETE STORY...Please wait for the book release soon.

Warm Regards,

Mr. Bay Leaf

We Indians are like this...including me...

2009-06-19T19:53:00.000-07:00

The other day my Chachu visited me.He was talking about typical Indian mentality and how they behaves etc.He came out with a very relevant example.Let me share it with all of you.

He says,"In India,if you offer something free,people will run after you and follow you ,however the moment you ask for their commitment,dedication or contribution for anything,they will refrain from supporting you.

Mahatma Gandhi told the Indians that,'Just follow me...be a part of the Non-violence,Non-co-operative movement,I don't need any money or anything.Entire India followed him.On the other hand,Netaji's famous quote was "Give me blood,I will give you freedom".How many people turned up for this offer?A very few..even people with in Congress created more problems for him(Gandhi created a Pattabhi Sitaramaiyah, against him during congress presidential election,though he failed to match Netaji's charismatic persona and lost the election miserably.) and resisted his way of fighting for freedom,as a result of which he was not so successful as Gandhi was.

There is a mad rush is Big Bazaar,Pantaloons or any such malls in cities.The reason being "BOGO",1+1 offers and so on...(again kuch free mein milega..public don't mind being in a queue for hours together or shop 3 trousers though there is just a requirement of one only to avail the offer..).

conduct GD/PI/Personality Development classes/workshops free of cost,"The class was superb..the faculty was outstanding..on the other hand, ask XYZ amount for the same... and invite them for a class.."Sorry!I am busy with my studies.I will try.I don't need these classes.There are so many people offering these classes free and what not>>>".

A fairly known Quiz master(me) does quizzes free of cost in colleges,schools..people react,"HOOHHHH...This guy is amazing..awesome..superb,well researched questions....if you ask the same college people your service charges next time onwards,"our budget is not that good to accommodate your expense',"we will think about you definitely when we do a quiz next time",we students will manage the show this time and so many other excuses....

If you have free entry for competitions, the number of participants will be uncountable..if you charge something,the responses may be lukewarm.

While working with educational organizations,I had come across some strange,funny & sad experiences in schools,colleges where we use to conduct career planning seminars across the length & breadth of Orissa.At some places,the biggest motivation for the participants was free food packets during or after the session,even though the primary objective or curiosity to know about effective career planning was not there.

The same applies to so called love stories of today's society.May it be a guy or a girl,everyone enjoys the fun of being into a relationship.But the moment you talk about taking it forward into a marriage or expect the same kind of love,affection,trust,faith,commitment that you usher on your partner,disaster it leads to....(people will say,you are too possessive..you are not giving any space for me to grow..you are very kiddish..you are immature..listen..there are family problems to tackle,I can't go against my parents...Why did you disclose it to your friends that we are going around..it should be secret...).Without any commitment,let it be a time pass...have fun(both physically & mentally),in case the relationship is not having any future..walk out amicably and forget whatever happened between us.Cause..again..you had fun for those few days,months & years right..cherish those golden moments..that's all...by the way..there are so many people who divorce even after a decade of relationship,finding that they are not compatible with each other.Therefore quarterly,monthly,yearly stints are still acceptable.

Let us talk about social problems.We keep on cribbing the way the govt runs,the way they fail to resolve civic problems but when you ask people to come forward and protest directly in front of the authorities,"I am sorry..I don't aim to be a politician...".If you actively protest against the same problems of your locality,raised by your people,for your people,either you will be branded as a person who is aiming to be a politician and creating a plot for his/her future ambition.Nobody will be beside you when you go to raise a complain.Then the concerned people will isolate you and say that nobody else had a problem,you are the only one who is problem child and ignore you.

Domestic violence rampant everywhere.But none of us are ready to be vocal against it or try to be a whistle blower and highlight such issues though it keep on happening around us.It is ironic to say that if you have a debate,essay competition regarding such topics,thousands of people will participate and talk about their views,the objective being winning the prize money.Then we all become happy that,"Indian youth is enlightened against issues,our future is bright etc..over a period of time,the same people will become dormant and ignore so many incidents happening with in their circle.Thereafter "they will apply their favorite "E for Excuses"formula.

Till the you don't ask anything from people in India,they will support you and pay rapt attention.If you are offerings freebies, you will be the darling of the junta,the moment you talk about charges,you are alone,aloof in the crowd.

when did you say "I love you" last to someone....

2009-06-14T00:15:00.000-07:00

Dear All,

Most of the time, many of us say it casually and at times seriously that "I Love You".But when we say this, it comes with lots of responsibilities and a hell lot of baggages.

Thus I request you all not to use it when you don't mean it.

Secondly,even if you mean it, hold for a minute and ask whether you are ready to take the responsibilities further. If your soul says "No...I am not"..then burry the statement then and there and if it is "yes"....go ahead as God has selected you among the fortunate ones who not only mean it but also commited towards it.

Thus I wanted to take a minute of my busy,hectic schedule and searched the appropriate meaning in the web from an authenticated site namely www.dictionary.com. Here are the meanings.Kindly go through it and think twice before using this statement in future.

love
noun
1.
a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for his work"; "children need a lot of love" [ant: hate]
2.
any object of warm affection or devotion; "the theater was her first love"; "he has a passion for cock fighting";
3.
a beloved person; used as terms of endearment [syn: beloved]
4.
a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; "their love left them indifferent to their surroundings"; "she was his first love"
5.
a score of zero in tennis or squash; "it was 40 love"
6.
sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between two people; "his lovemaking disgusted her"; "he hadn't had any love in months"; "he has a very complicated love life" [syn: sexual love]
verb
1.
have a great affection or liking for; "I love French food"; "She loves her boss and works hard for him" [ant: detest]
2.
get pleasure from; "I love cooking"
3.
be enamored or in love with; "She loves her husband deeply"
4.
have sexual intercourse with; "This student sleeps with everyone in her dorm"; "Adam knew Eve"; "Were you ever intimate with this man?" [syn: roll in the hay]

Now,hopefully you understand it better and will use it carefully in future....

or else your casual remark may create false perception in someone's mind and it may lead to so many undesired troubled for those people and make their life miserable.

Warm regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf