The widening generation gap

The other day,my friend was just sharing this with me.

His mother was watching a hindi movie,'Babool'.He deliberately changed the channel.His mother was annoyed.She insisted to watch that movie.But He didn't allow.My logic was if you don't believe in something why you pretend that you like that.This movie was on a widow remarriage initiated and supported by the Father-in-law himself.Come what may,if such a scenario arises,probably his parents won't take such a brave step.Defending herself his mother said that it is just celluloid entertainment and it is not possible in a society.It led to a question that,"Don't you think also these movies are replica of the changing mindset of some stubborn people who are ready to accept the positive changes in the society unlike our parents?"

The rebel in him didn't stop here.The other day they were engrossed in the movie of "Lage Raho Munnabhai".But they are the same parents who are not comfortable allowing their own kid's marriage as the bride is a mangalik.What a paradox it is?

When it comes taking onus of a change,we refrain from doing this.We come out with all such excuses like "kala sarpa dosha",'Vaidhabya Dosha' etc.Then emotions will ooze out..How can I allow my son to die?There if you try to convince them that,these are old school thoughts.Please do change it and I am interested to marry her.Over..you will become bad son immediately cause you liked someone whom they rejected because some quack astrologer calculated a mishap due to the planetary alignments of that girl.Then the follow up statements.."Our son don't have any respect for us.He is ignoring us for a girl.Look,how the girl is trying to snatch him from us??And probably leading to...we will commit suicide in case you die or ok fine,you go ahead with your marriage but never ever look back to us.We disown you.They say it with lots of conviction in most of the cases cause they know that,their son loves them the most and probably won't leave them so let us exploit the emotional benefit.Just because you want to lead a peaceful life with your beloved with their blessings,you try to convince them.You beg them for agreeing and request them for allowing you to get married to the same mangalik girl,but the emotional blackmailing will become a burden and you have to compromise.Because,you have to prove that you are a good son.Now,does that mean,the parents are at fault,probably,NO.They also are behaving like parents,but then jut due to this stupid age old concepts of "Mangalik Hazards",you have to sacrifice your love and be a part of the so called system.

Since childhood,our son always do listen to us and we are the best to decide who is the best suited for him as a life partner.In case you disagree with them,"Our son has changed,his priorities changed in life?We are nowhere?We thought he will never go against our decisions,but today he had proven us wrong?hooh..Why do parents forget that,"Marriage is about united mind,body and soul and more than their like or dislike,their kid's liking is the most important factor,or else the two lives will be spoiled within days..may lead to post marital trauma..there they will be only watching them suffer...they can't do anything otherwise..

Obsession with fair skin is still deep rooted.If someone is of darker complexion,the couple won't look nice is the excuse given by parents.They are forgetting one thing that everyone's kid is the best looking one for them.At times,marriage proposals didn't work out cause either the bride or the groom is of darker complexion and thus the other person denied.

Why do a person get married?

Because he need a cook to serve good food on time
or
Because he need a maid servant to take care of household work and cleanliness etc..
or
Because he need a legal license to have sex and produce kids so that the generation continues and the physical pleasure is taken care off..
or
Because he need financial support and as because double income is the need of the time
or
Because he need a showpiece

I wonder why????

As per my knowledge,it is about understanding each other,giving emotional support to each other,standing beside each other through thick and thin and all other things will revolve around it...

People say,Marriage is also about marriage of two families?But my question is what is more important..the marriage and compatibility of two souls who are going to lead the rest of the lives or the compatibility among the in laws and other relatives of both the side?

I believe effective parenting should also address this issue..or else the differences due to the generation gap will widen further...

Divine intervention required...
Social revolution required...
Mindsets which are not healthy has to be smashed...