Love@Quarter,HR process,Corporate-A TRIED AND TESTED analogy

When HR recruits someone,he is so excited about the fact that they had selected the best candidate who fit in to a profile.After few days,they observe the candidate's demeanour at work place.Once satisfied during the probationary period,give them a confirmation in job.Then the employee works in the system for a while.Over a period of time,he/she displays some of his/her attitude and approach towards work.The same HR starts finding it incorrect.Therefore after a while,they do have regrets that their perception about this person,his capability & competencies is actually wrong.They reprimand the candidate for the same and give him a deadline to improve his skill sets within a stipulated time,failing which he has to be given a pink slip.The same HR who recruited them say that,"It is their biggest mistake recruiting this fool".Then,they even wish and wait for "When this person will resign or find out a new job and leave the system"?

Now let's look at a relationship.You meet a person,spend some time,start liking his/her looks,features,demeanour and then decide to get into a relationship.You feel,you found the Ideal life partner that you were looking for.Then we say,"Why did you come to my life so late,I wish you were in my life much before.I hope you will not forget me and you will be beside me through thick and thin.You hung up over the phone through out the night.The night becomes shorter and sweeter.Anyone trying to call you up during that time has to wait long hours in a queque to talk to you over the phone,cause you prefer talking to your would be partner.However,days move on.Suddenly,you find the person being possessive,you comprehend that "he/she is not giving you freedom","He is barging in to your personal lives".You get irritated when he/she ask you,enquire you about your daily life,trust/faith that you had suddenly disappears.You feel like ignoring the person and thus to maintain distance,you start ignoring his/her phone calls.You make the same person wait for longer hours while you hung up with your new friends.You even go to an extent of saying that,"Don't interfere in my personal life,give me freedom,change your habits or else I will hate you like anything.You have become a pain for me,your relationship has become a burden on me.I want peace.The same person says,"Why did you come to my life and made my life miserable?"Then comes,"I have certain commitments towards my family,thus I can't go ahead with the relationship,I am out of it.It is better that you come out of it.The care becomes curse and disbelief.Love is being treated as lust.I regret that I had some feelings for you,I wonder how I use to talk longer hours with such a person.Then he/she switches off his/her mobile phone.If you try to make him/her remember about the past memories,they hate it from the core of the heart.If the person gets upset,demented and starts ignoring himself,gets frustrated and becomes a laughing stock before the society.Previously when this person use to get angry due to a skirmish and skip his/her lunch,you use to force him/her by promises and emotional statements like,"If you won't have food,I will hurt my ownself,I too will skip lunch,If you love me,you won't do anything like this".Whereas,now the situation is different,thus dialogues do change.The same person starts saying that,"Oh!you are black mailing me.You are trying to defame me.You are doing all these drama to get sympathy from people.I hate you the most.Get out of my life,live me alone.Please walk out.When will you leave me alone in peace?"

It is also quite similar to the product life cycle(PLC)'s different stages like Introductory,growth,maturity & decline.

In a similar fashion as the HR recruits,trains,rewards,tries to retain and if failed with all,retrench them or give them a pink slip or golden handshake.The relationship that started with lots of fun,fare,expectations,excitement,trust ends with hurt souls,fragmented hearts,emotional trauma & painful experiences.

Questions to be asked,'who is responsible for this'?
"Is it acceptable that someone enters into your life,gets intimate and all on a sudden with excuses like family,religion,caste,community, moves out of the commitment and leave you in despair?
"It was just courtship and relationship didn't work and thus there is no problem in walking out cause it is better to leave now rather than leaving the person later cause that is more painful."

But unfortunately,if the person even tries to save the relationship somehow and goes for any extent,still it is treated negatively as he./she is actually not accepting that he/she is not worth it.

Why did people are commiting when they are unsure about a relationship?
Why it has become practice that people believe in Love@quarter?

Quite similar to how a corporate works.

They look at the individual employee's performance at the end of a quarter and then when they see the ROI(Return on investment) is negative or negligible,they don't mind sacking him or giving him a deadline to find a new job after a sumptuous lunch/dinner.

Love & relationships are just like these quarterly business results now.One quarter,we are ready to mingle with someone,spend some golden moments,be intimate,then suddenly think about our family problems,obligations to parents,duty towards society,religion,cast,community etc and we walk out of the relationship.The person who was the intelligent,good looking,smart suddenly becomes aged,rugged,psychic,idiot and thus you don't have any space for him/her.

The most loved person becomes one of the most hated.

That's the irony.

Therefore,please don't say "I Love you" just like this.Say it when you actually mean it.Never fool around with people's emotions and leave them in despair after creating false hopes like a facade.Never treat human beings as animals.Have respect for people's feelings,emotions & self-esteem.

Love has become just a 3 letter word in the current scenario.It is ROI/SEX/FUN.
People becoming so materialistic that the concept of platonic love no more exists.

Adulteration has become an integral part of daily life.Everything is adultered,may it be in love,may it be in food items,feelings & emotions.Value of truth,faith,care is degrading day to day.

whereas you have quite a few lucky mortals,who had loved ,commited and married their partners and are living life together.Let us hope,this share increases over a period of time.

Regards,

Mr.Bay Leaf